"A Road to Nowhere": Psychologist Labkovsky Smashed to Pieces a Popular Way to Motivate Yourself to Do Something
If you are faced with a task, you should start with one extremely important thought.
Psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky shared advice on his Telegram channel on how to get yourself moving and get down to business.
Every person has found themselves in a situation where they needed to do something to become better.
Some needed to learn a foreign language, others wanted to take up sports or start mastering a new profession.
At the start, something started and then died out. Or you never got around to it. The psychologist explained why this happens.
You need to start with the idea that you don’t need to become better, Labkovsky pointed out.
The attitude “I must fix this”, “I must be more active/smart/interesting” is doomed to failure: “This is a road to nowhere.”
With such an attitude there will be no result. You need to forget about the desire to become better. It is much more useful and effective if you are accompanied by interest.
Learn a foreign language out of interest or play sports out of love for the process, advises Labkovsky.
Morning joggers are those who want to take care of themselves, not pursue some mythical goal of “getting better.” The same goes for dancing. Real pros enjoy the process itself, and they also want to better understand their bodies.
Everyone has their own specific motivation, which is fueled by internal interest.
Those who want to prove something to someone rather than become better are especially doomed to failure.
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