Everyday and professional communication is literally replete with words and phrases that make a person think that the interlocutor is unfriendly.
What phrases express hidden hostility and opposition?
If your interlocutor claims that he empathizes with you and understands your concerns, then he clearly does not care about your problems.
Surprisingly, but true! All this looks like indirect hostility. And even more like a manifestation of indifference, veiled as kindness, attentiveness and care.
The interlocutor who compares himself with you would be happy to compete, but here's the problem: you are superior to him. Your vis-à-vis understands this perfectly well.
Your interlocutor will definitely not be able to win the honest way. The only thing left for him is to assert himself with words. By saying this, he seems to hint that he is not behind you in anything. At the same time, he clearly lacks the knowledge and necessary skills. We are talking about a real confrontation.
Bragging is not good. But on the other hand, it is not a sin. Sometimes a person wants to share his joy or success with the interlocutor without any ulterior motive. Does the other person constantly compare his own merits with yours? It turns out that he is an unfriendly and stubborn braggart.
Often, the successes of such subjects are very dubious. However, braggarts try to show their opponent that he is not fit to hold a candle to them, and most of his achievements are just dust. When communicating with such a person, you yourself may doubt your independence and significance. That is why you should not take his nonsense seriously.
If the other person is really busy with important things, but promises to call you back a little later, then everything is fine.
And this is a variant of deviation from the norm - you hear this phrase from your interlocutor every time during a call, and he never calls you back. With these words, the interlocutor demonstrates his disrespect and indifference. Any excuse is good to avoid communicating with you.
In some cases, a person really does not have enough time to talk. However, such a reason certainly does not fit this description. These words express the lack of desire of the vis-à-vis to have a conversation.
Does your friend or acquaintance repeatedly avoid the conversation, citing problems, illnesses, and other circumstances? Then it's time to forget about this person.
Vis-a-vis is not embarrassed to answer you so sharply? It turns out that he does not care about your revelations. Accordingly, this individual should not open his soul at all.
If the details of your failures and all sorts of troubles irritate a person, if he does not have a desire to support you, then he is definitely not your friend. He is more like an enemy!
When you begin your enthusiastic story, this interlocutor immediately crushes all your enthusiasm into dust. At best, he throws back: "That's not bad, but only for starters."
Perhaps there is a feeling of envy involved. The other person understands that he will not achieve even half of your success, and so he is seething with anger. Although he tries not to show it outwardly.
A person who openly declares the limitations of your mental abilities is not worthy of your attention and friendship. Notice that he does not even try to hide his hostility towards you.
True, some people prefer to close their eyes to outright rudeness. But you should not tolerate such antics! Just cross out all the boors, enemies, braggarts, gossips and envious people from your life. You will never regret it!
Previously, we talked about why trust issues arise in relationships.
