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Why We Are Afraid: A Cure for Fear
10.02.2024 15:00
Due to the fact that it is impossible to control “everything” and “everyone”, with the experience of perceiving inexplicable phenomena and sudden situations that disrupt plans, as a person develops, he increasingly gravitates towards his own vulnerability.
And understands the influence of uncontrollable events and higher powers.
Everyone has such fears about "tomorrow", but to varying degrees and at different ages. It is normal to be afraid of the unknown, - says psychologist Andrey Kashkarov .
Practical solutions
The main idea of the "medicine against fear" is to restore a harmonious mental background, a feeling of "airiness". Yes, this is an unprofessional term, but it fits perfectly.
There are many examples in nature and traditions, and we do not advertise them: “the People’s Commissar’s 100 grams before an attack” and, in general, alcohol as a temporary way to escape from obsessive thoughts of a negative nature (experiences), narcotic and medicinal, including “gifts of nature”.
This is, in general, a very pressing problem – the fight against fear in order to increase the survival of the species, of states consisting of people; the most renowned scientific teams have been working on it for many years.
You are not deprived of the opportunity to familiarize yourself with the results of the research. But in everyday life there are other practical solutions - psychological methods available to many.
Amazing closeness on the eve of a "terrible" event
Have you noticed that after a well-spent evening alone with your loved one and amazing intimacy, literally and figuratively, until dawn, you sometimes feel like a drunk who hasn’t had any alcohol.
This is a normal reaction of the body, when anxiety about any reason and fears recede. Therefore, a loved one strengthens his significance in your memory. He becomes necessary and irreplaceable to you.
But not only because of the joy of pleasure. It helps you feel better in this daily anxious world. An irreplaceable feeling in our times.
Something similar happens with real alcohol intemperance - the next day. Without any advertising, we only provide illustrative examples. Both examples are great on the eve of serious and responsible, unpleasant events, for example, before going to court and other institutions with special statutory tasks.
Neurobiologists can explain this better scientifically – in connection with the changing levels of dopamine and serotonin in the human body.
Help others with words and deeds
Provide help or sympathy to others to feel better. According to the well-known saying, "it is not the one who cries who hurts, but the one who is "with a soul". A person as a social phenomenon not only needs help from others (sympathy is also psychological help), but can and even wants to help others.
Problems arise when there is "no strength" (emotional and physical), when he himself is tired, apathetic or stressed. In such a state, a person should be pitied, not provoked; nothing good will come of the latter.
Helping others, if you clearly see the need for it, and sometimes even intuitively feel it, strengthens your own position - directly and indirectly, emotionally and physically, because everything is interconnected.
Any example is suitable - helping a granny cross the road, saying a kind word to a "tired" saleswoman, or even keeping silent about rudeness - without trying it on yourself - is also help. Let a car pass that is trying to merge into the flow.
Move a shopping cart in a supermarket so that it doesn't block the aisle. Hold the door for someone carrying a load. And be sure to smile.
It would not be superfluous to add a pleasant and creative word for it, for example, "when I also worked in the galleys in my past life, I did not even sweat in the summer." The connection "business plus attitude" is important.
These actions, the details of being considerate of others, as well as politeness in general, are not difficult, but they are necessary, first of all, for you; helping others has a positive effect on well-being - in all aspects, thus you get a vaccine against stress.
And as soon as you feel that its effect is ending - actualize the same method again. At the same time, try not to repeat yourself, this develops inventiveness in you, it will come in handy - it will be interesting to communicate with you. And everything is "plus".
All this allows you to feel connected to others and distract yourself from your own problems. It has been proven many times: a person feels better if he has done something nice for someone. And this phenomenon has become very adept at using not only marketers, but also social media organizers, who have come up with “likes” and “emojis” - as a quick way of emotional reaction, of course. a method that is not perfect. And insufficient.
Ask yourself the question "for whom are you publishing "news" and "opinions"?" And answer it honestly. A person needs feedback, encouragement, positive surprise, and in general - participation. Sometimes we are ready to accept even the appearance (nominality) of participation as a benefit.
Why? Because such reactions in others are in short supply in our direction. And you want them more and more. This is normal. Understanding this, you can also "give" emotions to others: you do something nice for them and the joy comes back to you a hundredfold. There is no time for fear here...
Fine-tuning extroversion
At risk are people with labile emotionality, they are said to "take things to heart", "get worked up at the drop of a hat", and therefore react with expression. If you are scared, this condition (you feel) becomes systematic - it is actualized again at the slightest reason - this is a medical ailment, you need a certified doctor.
And our recommendations concern non-medical psychotherapy of negative thoughts in a situation of emotional discomfort and a crisis of life values.
Increased empathy will help, try to reorient your thoughts from "yourself, beloved and poor" to what is happening around you and other people. With attention to detail in the format of extroversion, you will see other people better, and you will understand that everyone deserves pity, sympathy. Each in its own way. Everyone wants the same.
In Western culture and traditions, elements of "ostentatious good nature" are widely practiced, when a person shows others his smile. This is also a kind of empathy and extroversion. But it is better when it is accompanied by actions; then it does not deceive anyone and ceases to be nominal.
This is what we call for – sincerity, and we recommend not only the smile of “American well-being”, but the obligatory connection of “attitude” (it is important even in a fight) and actions – practices that help others.
So, by making helping others a habit, you will improve your own mood.
And we assure you – you will like it. This is one of the ways to forget about fear – locally or even in the medium term.
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