No matter how close you are to your loved one, sometimes you may regret something you said.
Sometimes you get angry and say things you later regret. But as we know, words can hurt, sometimes even more than actions.
There is a fine line between verbal abuse and what should you never hear from your partner? Here are some examples:
What's happening
Disparaging comments can negatively impact your self-esteem. Be careful if you hear offensive words like, “You can’t do anything right,” “Why do you always screw up?” or “I can’t figure out what’s wrong with you!”
By doubting your abilities, your partner may be trying to undermine your confidence and make you feel bad about yourself. Remember: you have the right to feel supported by your partner, not to feel even more insecure when you're with them.
Explain to your partner that their words hurt you and that they have no right to say such things to you. Set boundaries right away, asking your partner not to insult your abilities.
For example, you might say, "I'm doing everything I can to support you, and I need you to do the same for me. Please don't say things like that to me in the future."
Find ways to boost your self-esteem by taking time to take care of yourself. Don't let anyone, not even your partner, make you feel like there's something wrong with you.
I don't see a problem. What are you nervous about?
A person with a possible addiction, such as alcoholism, gambling or any other addiction, rarely admits it. They are much more likely to blame their partner for their comments.
Examples of phrases such a person might say are: “You’re picking on me,” “Can’t you see I’m just trying to relax,” or anything else that allows the person to avoid acknowledging the problem. As a result, the partner often distances themselves and the problematic behavior continues.
Why are you reacting like that? Nothing special happened!
Minimizing your feelings can make the person experiencing them feel insignificant.
Examples of such statements are: “You’re too emotional” or “You’re overreacting.” They may sound reassuring, but when you’re upset, this dismissal of your feelings will likely only confuse and frustrate you. Your partner should allow you to relax, not tell you how to react to a situation.
Tell the person next to you how their reaction makes you feel. If your partner knows how dismissive it sounds, they may try to communicate differently in the future.
If he doesn't see a problem with his behavior, don't let him ignore your feelings. Explain that your feelings are important and that it's important for him to listen to you, even if he doesn't agree with you.
For example, try saying, "I don't think I'm overreacting. I just need you to listen to me right now, even if you don't think it's that important."
I don't have time for such things.
This statement can be very rude and hurtful. Essentially, your partner is telling you that he or she doesn't want to spend time with you. This statement conveys the following message: "You are not that important to me. There are other things that are more important to me right now."
I don't care
It's okay if you and your partner disagree or don't like the same things. After all, you're still your own people even if you're in a relationship with each other.
It's also natural to want your partner to like the things you like, but it's important to remember that you're unlikely to have the same interests. It's also important to remember that if one of you disagrees on something or has different views on things, it doesn't mean you can't support each other.
Let's do this quickly
If your partner is selfish in bed, he or she may convince you to have sex when you don't want to or ignore your desire to have sex.
Not having your sexual needs met can be a sign of the end of a relationship. Just because your partner has an orgasm doesn't mean your needs are being met.
I can't imagine life without you
While such a statement may be flattering at first, it can also become a source of serious pressure.
After all, it places a huge responsibility on you for your partner's well-being. You become the center of his life, his only hope for happiness. Over time, such a burden can become unbearable.
Earlier we talked about how a woman sees the ideal man .
Author: Valeria Kisternaya
