Breaking up with a family tyrant brings more than just relief.
A person who has taken on the role of a tyrant in the family can actually harm someone over whom he no longer has power.
Let's figure out what you should be prepared for when breaking up with an abuser.
Firstly, if you have been awarded property or living space by court order, it is better to mentally prepare yourself for the fact that the tyrant will not simply accept this fact.
It is best to mentally say goodbye to expensive repairs or high-quality equipment that he could ruin in a fit of rage.
Also, don't expect your ex to change for the sake of the children. You can't re-educate an abuser and there certainly won't be a miracle after a divorce.
It is important to remember that you cannot let yourself get drawn into arguments and discussions about what happened in the past. Letting go and forgetting is the best way to recover from a toxic relationship as quickly as possible.
And, most importantly, it is better to avoid your ex, especially if he violates your boundaries, and do not give in to provocations and pressure from his side.
Author: Irina Tint
