When newlyweds enter into marriage, each draws a beautiful picture of a family and imagines a happy life together.
Those who have not been there yet can only imagine life, and when they encounter it in reality, they are often disappointed. Below are seven myths about married life.
Loving spouses do not quarrel
The first common myth is that people who love each other do not quarrel and live in peace and harmony. This is far from true!
Every family has moments when passions are heated to the limit, and a quarrel is right there. The main thing here is how well people can control themselves, not get personal, not insult, not resort to violence - love does not solve anything here!
A woman's place is at the stove, and a man earns money
For a long time now, representatives of the weaker sex have won equality in all spheres of life, and in married life in particular.
You can often find families where the wife earns as much as the man, and often even more.
It also becomes normal when the priority in doing household chores is given to the spouse. In this case, the main thing is to agree among yourselves that what suits the husband and wife first, and not the mother-in-law or girlfriend from the neighboring entrance.
Children immediately after the wedding
Newlyweds immediately after the wedding, or even during it, are faced with questions - when will you have children? Yes, it was accepted that after the wedding, heirs should appear in the near future. But everything flows, everything changes.
There is no need to rush to “make children” in the near future after the official status of husband and wife appears. In this case, it is necessary to clearly understand that there is a desire for the baby to appear soon.
If this is not the case, then it is worth enjoying spending time together.
In modern times, such a movement as childfree is widespread - a conscious unwillingness to have children, in no case, there is no call for this. This is information for information, that this is also the norm. Let children be born long-awaited and in love.
A stamp in your passport is a guarantee of fidelity
Young girls who are dating a young man think, “Now we’ll get married, and he’s definitely not going anywhere!” If, apart from the note about the marriage, there is nothing connecting them initially, then, unfortunately, such a union will soon fall apart.
Family is an "organism" in which life "boils" every day. It is important to be a single whole. To take an active part in each other's lives.
Support crazy ideas, sympathize, empathize, be support and support. This is the foundation of a strong marriage.
In this case, fidelity will be your companion throughout your life together.
Mother-in-law and mother-in-law are scary terms
There are jokes that ridicule the relationship between mother-in-law and son-in-law.
On forums you can often find discussions in which a daughter-in-law describes a terrible relationship with her mother-in-law. Yes, unfortunately, such cases are not uncommon! But this does not mean that everyone is like this.
For parents, the only thing they need is the happiness of their children. The way the relationship between the newlyweds is built is the most important thing for them.
There is no need to tell your mother about every argument with your chosen one, no need to tell her how your wife cooked borscht terribly, how you can’t decide who will be in charge of the family finances, etc.
This undermines the positive impression parents have about their choice of their second half. They are already feeling jealous. No need to add fuel to the fire.
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Author: Valeria Kisternaya
