Have you noticed that sometimes one careless word can turn a cute baby into a fire-breathing dragon?
Parents often repeat cliched phrases, not realizing that they themselves are creating the ground for endless tantrums.
For example, the phrase "Don't cry, it's nothing!" seems harmless, but in reality it's like gasoline for children's emotions. The child feels that his experiences are being devalued, and begins to scream louder to get through to you.
So what to do? Instead of denying your feelings, try… joining them. If your baby falls and cries, say, “You’re hurt, right? I can see how upset you are.”
This doesn't mean you're encouraging tantrums — you're letting your child know that their emotions are important. When your child feels heard, their stress levels drop and the tantrums subside on their own.
And remember: never ask "Why did you do that?" Children under 7 years old cannot analyze the reasons for their actions.
The question "Why did you break the vase?" will result in silence or a made-up story. It's better to ask: "How can we fix this?" - this way you teach responsibility, not lying.
Author: Valeria Kisternaya
