Many novels show us how a strong and independent heroine undertakes to re-educate a man who has a cold and selfish temperament.
In movies and books, this scenario always ends with a happy ending, but is this true in real life?
Let's figure out what motivates us to get involved in such dubious enterprises and why they inevitably lead to collapse.
The idea that love overcomes everything and is capable of re-educating even a person with a heart of stone is instilled in our heads from childhood.
In fact, women who seek to re-educate such a person often pursue rather selfish goals.
A romantically inclined person may want to be the chosen one to prove to the world that her love can really re-educate another person.
This creates the risk of creating a toxic relationship with your own hands, in which one person acts as a victim and the other as a savior.
The "victim" who did not ask to be rescued will begin to resist the rescuer's actions, which will ultimately cause the latter to feel devastated.
It is important to understand that love cannot cure psychopathology, which is why this type of relationship will sooner or later lead to nowhere.
Author: Irina Tint
