A polite person smiles, speaks softly, and again agrees to someone else's request.
It is pleasant to be kind; people are drawn to such individuals, as if to the warmth of a fireplace on a cold evening.
However, behind this line there is sometimes a trap that imperceptibly takes away strength.
Someone takes on too much, suppresses irritation, and suddenly it turns out that there is emptiness inside, and the moment when it began passed without attention.
It all starts with little things that seem insignificant.
A colleague asks to finish his report, and the person nods, although he himself is swamped with work.
A friend calls with endless complaints, and he listens for hours, putting off his own affairs.
Politeness makes you remain silent when you want to object.
Psychologists call this the "nice person" trap, where trying to please becomes a habit.
Over time, those around you get used to the concessions, and the load grows like a snowball rolling down a hill.
This undermines your nerves and confidence, because your own desires fade into the background.
Some decide to conduct an experiment.
The person says, “It won’t work today,” gently but firmly, and watches the reaction.
The world does not collapse, but lightness appears inside.
Scientists confirm that clear boundaries protect against burnout, which often occurs when people try too hard to be nice.
People around him begin to respect the time of such a person, just as he respects them.
Kindness remains a strength, unless it becomes a trap.
Life becomes brighter when a person stops dissolving in others and does not forget about respect.
Author: Elena Gutyro
