During a heated discussion of a particular issue, you may not even notice that someone is trying to tease you with one of these phrases.
The manipulators' arsenal consists of typical expressions. They are repeated by many of them, because they are time-tested, and coming up with something new takes a long time and still needs to be "tested".
Psychologists advise paying attention to these 5 manipulative phrases.
"What will other people think of you?"
An attempt to intimidate and sow uncertainty in your decision by involving an impersonal “third party”.
The manipulator throws in the full force of the crowd, which is ready to criticize any deviation from stereotypes.
"If you do this, then I..."
This technique is abandoned in cases where the manipulator loses control and tries with all his might to win.
Threats can be anything, it depends on the context. What is important is something else. You need to be one step ahead.
"Yes, I am for your sake..."
This is a phrase that people like to say when they spend time and effort talking about grievances, lack of respect and love.
The message is simple: “Everyone owes me, because for your sake I gave up…” The manipulator forces the target to compensate for their deprivations, to stop thinking only about themselves, and so on.
You shouldn't fall for this, because no one asked a person to suffer and deny himself everything. It's his choice.
"You'll thank me later"
This phrase is often used by people who believe that they can reason from the heights of their experience.
Most often, this expression contains passive aggression, with the help of which a person seeks to demonstrate two things: he is important and he is right.
Allegedly, all other options will not lead to the desired result, you need to do exactly this, period.
But the secret is that only the person himself can make the right choice that will suit him. However, no one prevents you from taking note of the recommendations, even those that were given in this form.
"Others have it like this..."
One of the most controversial manipulative phrases. On the one hand, it seems to motivate. Having heard it, a person must necessarily become better, come to his senses and become an example.
On the other hand, few people feel better when they hear this phrase. Doubts multiply, and the feeling of being a “loser in life” becomes even more pronounced.
In this case, it is important not to focus on who you are being compared to. Their success is their success. It is better to focus on your personal achievements and set goals.
Author: Dmitry Bobrov
