They say it's better to learn from other people's mistakes than from your own.
However, it is impossible to predict absolutely everything that can happen on such an important day for any woman as a wedding.
We really hope that you will not recognize yourself in any of these stories, and if you have yet to acquire the status of a bride, then you can consider that everything listed is those very mistakes of others that are worth paying attention to.
So, here are the most common regrets of women who have experienced all the delights of the wedding bustle.
About the desire to do everything perfectly. Very often, attempts to please everyone - both relatives and guests - end in complete failure.
It is worth remembering that this is impossible in principle, because there will always be a dissatisfied aunt from Syktyvkar who will not like the pomegranate sauce served with meat, or the cream on the wedding cake.
Just come to terms with this thought and try to enjoy the holiday first and foremost for yourself.
About the unbearable burden of a wedding. Sometimes it seems that organizing a celebration is a pleasant hassle, and many women completely and entirely take it on their fragile shoulders.
But there are often cases when a few days before the celebration the bride suffers a nervous breakdown and asks everyone to leave her alone. It is clear that there can be no talk of a festive mood.
Don't neglect the services of a wedding manager. Even if you have a modest wedding, you can trust him with if not everything, then at least most of the organizational matters.
About a wedding during pregnancy. It is not uncommon to see a bride in a rather interesting position, because the stereotype that the child must certainly be legitimate is still alive.
But for some reason, few people put themselves in the place of a pregnant girl: the corset on the dress is tight, toxicosis torments, the legs are swollen, and the mood, which changes every five minutes, can completely ruin the holiday.
To this we can also add sympathetic glances, which perfectly illustrate the phrase “she wanted a groom, so she got pregnant.”
About a pompous buffet. What girl hasn't dreamed of a quiet wedding for two somewhere on the ocean shore, but parents insist on a big celebration, to which absolutely all relatives from near and far abroad must be invited.
As a rule, they argue that “a wedding is once in a lifetime, and you can go on holiday to the sea anyway.” But a noisy feast is not a guarantee of a long and happy family life.
Don't give up on your dream, let this be your holiday, and not your entire large family's.
About the toastmaster, senseless and merciless. The soul of any wedding ceremony is, of course, the toastmaster. The atmosphere of the holiday and the mood of the guests depend on him. You should not rely on someone's opinion or recommendations.
Even if you are assured that “the toastmaster is just awesome!”, be sure to meet with the host in advance to understand exactly whether you are on the same wavelength with this person, whether he can make your holiday special, exactly the way you want it.
Otherwise, you and your guests will remember the dirty jokes, vulgar, banal contests, or out-of-tune singing, since the toastmaster often also plays the role of a singer.
About a bad photographer. Another tricky point is wedding photos and videos. As a rule, the services of a professional photographer are not cheap, and many simply feel sorry to pay such a sum for a wedding photo album.
However, it is worth remembering that these photos are a memory of the most important event in your life. It is better to entrust this to those who know their business and know how to take pictures, and not to a friend who recently bought himself a DSLR and updated the filters in Photoshop.
About the desire to do everything. In one day there is a registration at the registry office, a wedding, a walk around the city, and a banquet.
After such a busy day, neither the groom nor the bride simply has the strength for anything, not even for the first wedding night. And if there was a bachelorette party or a bachelorette party the day before, then it can be assumed that the newlyweds will almost certainly feel like a squeezed lemon.
About bad weather. In the imagination of every girl on her wedding day, nature itself should come to the bride's aid and provide good weather. But all rainbow dreams are shattered by harsh reality.
You should be prepared for the sun to hide behind the clouds and for it to rain.
There is no need to be disappointed in the wedding day in general, because, as we know, nature has no bad weather, you just need to mentally prepare for it.
About a bad hairdo or bad makeup. To prevent your reflection in the mirror from ruining your holiday, ask a beautician or hairdresser to do a so-called hair or makeup trial in advance.
Then you'll know for sure that you have big curls on your head, as you wanted, and not a hairstyle in the style of "the last day of Pompeii", because the stylist thought "it would look better on you".
About the chosen one. As sad as it is, but perhaps this is one of the most common disappointments. After the wedding, a woman realizes that she is with the wrong person.
Don't blame yourself for the choice you made - neither you nor your chosen one are to blame for this. Some people understand this right away, some after 10 years, and some only at the end of life, when old age sets in and it is unlikely that anything can be fixed.
Previously we talked about how to stop calling your ex- boyfriend .
Author: Valeria Kisternaya
