When entering into marriage, many couples expect that everything will be easy, that they will avoid routine and disagreements. But, unfortunately, sooner or later, routine appears in relationships.
And because of this, the couple reaches a kind of emotional “dead end”, not knowing how to further develop the relationship.
The biggest and most problematic issues often become women's expectations from marriage. Because dreams do not become reality, conflicts arise.
Knowing that she is attractive and desirable to her man
One of the main points that representatives of the stronger half of humanity must take into account is to emphasize that the beloved is still just as beautiful and sexy!
If a woman does not receive confirmation of her attractiveness, she will gradually become disillusioned with her choice and will look for a replacement.
Safety
It's not just about legal or psychological security. A woman in a marriage, first of all, is looking for financial stability. So that she doesn't have to worry about money in situations where she might lose her job, get sick, or go on maternity leave.
If the chosen one is able to provide for the family, then the woman will be calm that she will not have to experience stress due to the financial collapse of the family.
As for psychological safety, the situation is more complicated. A woman in marriage should feel that she is needed, can relax, cry, not pretend to be "Hostess of the Year" or "Miss Universe" and not be afraid of harsh shouts, ridicule or physical abuse from her husband.
For her, marriage should become a safe haven and a reliable fortress to which she will return after “storms” and “gales” at work.
Children
Women, entering into marriage, long for children. Some representatives of the fair sex even see this as the goal of their lives.
But it is worth saying right away that, despite the large amount of reliable information about pregnancy, childbirth and the first years of a little person, many ladies consider this period to be the sweetest and most wonderful time in marriage!
Therefore, when a child appears in a couple, the young mother experiences such psychological and physical stress that the question of a quick return to work does not even arise. And the "sweetest" thing in such a situation is that most men distance themselves from the child. The result: quarrels and scandals.
Dear men, if you want harmony and happiness to be preserved in the couple after the birth of the child, then help your other half with the baby.
Rest
Marriage is a union of two people. The difficulties and worries that arise should be shared by both (theoretically). But in practice: both work, and household responsibilities and children are only the woman's. After a hard day at work, a legal dinner, a man smoothly moves to his favorite sofa in front of the TV or computer.
It is worth recalling one popular wisdom in such a situation: “If a man wants a woman to pay more attention to him, then let him help her do housework.”
Cultural leisure
If a woman is locked in a circle of “home – work – children”, then sooner or later there will be a scandal in the family.
Women want to do not only their routine duties, but also have fun!
If this seems strange and unlikely to you, then suggest that your lady love make a list of events that she would like to attend. And you will be very surprised that the list will be impressive.
Therefore, if you want a woman to constantly give you a blooming appearance, a joyful and bright look and happy smiles, then give her a chance to unwind at least once a week!
You can even suggest an option for joint cultural leisure so that no one in the couple feels offended.
Author: Valeria Kisternaya
