It happens in relationships that they go nowhere.
A person feels that something is wrong, but cannot understand what exactly it is.
This relationship may be doomed, and here are three clear signs to help you figure it out.
Lack of common goals
Usually, at the beginning of a relationship, it is important to discuss common interests and goals.
However, many miss this moment, putting off talking about their desires and dreams for later.
People stay together because of the fear of loneliness or the fear of starting a new relationship.
Research published in the Journal of Marriage and Family shows that couples who discuss their goals and values are 30% less likely to break up.
As psychologist John Gottman notes, “A lack of common goals and interests can lead to the destruction of relationships.”
One-sided relationship
If in a couple one person only receives, lives the way he likes, and the other only serves his interests, this is an alarming sign.
The initiative in a relationship must come from both.
If only one person is active, he or she will eventually burn out and feel trapped.
As a result, everything that previously seemed strong and was called love is destroyed.
Psychologist Sue Johnson says relationships need to be mutual, otherwise one partner will start to feel used.
Lack of development
It is important for the relationship to develop. If it is stuck at one level, it worsens the prospects.
Two healthy individuals cannot be in the same state all the time.
If a couple has adapted to each other and lives in a comfort zone, dreaming of something else, then this is definitely a problem.
Sometimes this kind of getting stuck happens at the meeting stage and later develops into quarrels, separations, reconciliations and quarrels again.
These signs will help you notice problems in time and, perhaps, save the relationship or think about the need for changes.
Author: Elena Gutyro
