You kiss goodnight, celebrate anniversaries, and sometimes go on dates.
Everything is like in the movies, but for some reason you feel like a wall is slowly growing between you? Perhaps you are making mistakes that accumulate resentment for years.
For example, the habit of discussing problems on social networks instead of talking to a partner. Or the phrase “Nothing happened!”, behind which hides an Everest-sized grievance.
But the most dangerous habit is to think that love is effortless.
People often think, "If he loves me, he'll figure it out himself." But even telepaths can't read minds. Instead of getting angry about unwashed dishes, say directly, "I need help."
And stop comparing your relationship with others - Instagram posts only show smiles, not 3am fights. Another hidden enemy is routine.
"Family evenings" turn into silent consumption of dinner while listening to the TV.
Try banning gadgets at the table and asking each other silly questions like, "If you were a fruit, what would you be?" This will bring back the feeling of play.
But the main thing is to stop accumulating grievances. One couple spends 10 minutes before bed talking about what irritates them. Rule: no accusations, only "I-messages".
For example: “I get nervous when I’m late, so let’s agree to leave 15 minutes earlier.” After a month of such practices, you will notice that there are fewer quarrels and more laughter.
Author: Valeria Kisternaya
