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3 Types of Father Resentment That Can Affect a Daughter's Life
11.03.2024 15:30
Updated: 12.05.2024 23:23
A father is the first man in a girl’s life, and therefore he is extremely important.
It is on his image, already having become an adult, that the girl will build the image of the ideal man with whom she would like to start a family. That is why the father/daughter relationship is so important, and if there is a misunderstanding or resentment, the woman's life will be destroyed.
Many psychologists note that their patients never consider their relationship with their father as the root of their problems.
And only with the help of a qualified specialist can old emotional wounds be brought up. So what kind of grievances against a male parent can ruin a woman's fate?
Resentment at neglect
Since childhood, the girl feels that she was given little love, if the father did not consider it necessary to notice the child, giving a minimum of his free time.
She, having grown up a little, will compensate for this feeling in every possible way, giving herself to men who appear in her life. This is a kind of psychological trauma, starting with early passion and ending with an unsettled personal life in general.
Subconsciously, this kind of trauma will make the girl afraid of loneliness. She will enter into relationships with unsuitable men, be in toxic relationships with the goal of not being alone. The girl will never know what true love and a strong emotional connection are. Only working through old traumas and forgiving her parent can bring her out of this state.
Resentment against ruthlessness
The father's cruelty towards his own daughter and her mother gives rise to the accumulation of anger. Over the years, this develops into a terrible resentment and an undeniable desire to find a life partner who is the complete opposite of the tyrant father. But this is only her desire.
In fact, she will only attract abusers who assert themselves through their rude treatment of women.
Why does this happen? Because the image of her father is formed in the girl's mind, despite his cruelty.
Under the feeling of fear, the girl is afraid that her childhood nightmare will repeat itself. She mentally programs its image much stronger than the necessary positive one. And the Universe, as we know, throws up exactly what dominates in the subconscious. This is the real destructive force of the parent.
Resentment at the oppression of freedom
An absolutely mirror situation of the first point. These are conditions under which, from adolescence, a daughter is torn from the hands of her father, who takes care of her, who does not know the boundaries of personal space, stifles her with a lack of freedom.
This ultimately leads to the fact that a woman cannot find a life partner, clinging to the will and independence she has received.
The girl becomes the most independent and freedom-loving person, which is the opposite of happiness in a permanent romantic relationship. And again, the only way out of the situation can be found through forgiveness and working through the offense.
As you can see, happiness in the case of resentment towards the father lies through forgiveness. Only the girl can decide how and when to forgive her parent, what problems to work through, or live with resentment, feeling that the father is not worthy of emotional forgiveness.
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