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These 5 Excuses We Make For Ourselves When We're In Toxic Relationships
25.02.2024 05:10
Romantic relationships between a man and a woman can be divided into 2 groups:
1. There are sincere feelings and understanding in the relationship.
2. There is no love in the relationship, partners do not understand and do not respect each other.
Sometimes victims of a toxic love affair have to endure negative episodes and events for several years. All these people are afraid to get out of their shell and change their own lives.
A toxic relationship is a love or friendly mutual relationship between a man and a woman. In this relationship, one partner is under emotional stress and suffers from constant psychological pressure.
Toxic communication exhausts the victim: he falls into the grip of negative emotions, feels like a complete nonentity and an absolutely helpless person.
If the separation does not happen in time, the suffering partner will continue to be in a stressful state. But this is not the whole spectrum of unpleasant surprises.
In the future, the victim will face numerous complexes, nervous exhaustion and, possibly, serious illnesses.
The effect of excuses is more destructive and powerful than it may seem. Surprisingly, most people are in no hurry to find a way out of this trap.
They remain in a destructive relationship with a toxic partner because of these made-up excuses:
"My other half will take a grip and improve"
Many of us console ourselves with the hope of a bright future. We believe that one day our chosen one will eradicate his or her terrible shortcomings, stop hurting us with criticism, lying, being rude, bending us to his or her will.
Instead, the loved one will begin to improve the family union, restore the lost harmony. But such a miracle happens extremely rarely.
People become full-fledged individuals due to various factors. Society educates us no worse than our parents.
We learn valuable lessons, gain experience, and then we form our own individual style of behavior and thinking. Unfortunately, we often draw the wrong conclusions.
We must come to terms with the true character and principles of our other half at the very beginning of the relationship. If we are in pain, discomfort and difficulty, it is better to gather courage and distance ourselves.
"I don't want to be alone"
Our physical, mental and emotional health is priceless.
You can't sacrifice it for the sake of maintaining a relationship. We need life energy for complete happiness and effective activity.
It would be unfair if our chosen one, during our life together, emptied us from within, i.e. deprived us of this necessary energy. No pleasure, no development!
It is more pleasant to be a lonely person - happy and calm, than a family person, nervous and unhappy.
Sometimes our other half hurts us more than strangers. So why live with her?
"It's my fault!"
Most victims blame themselves for all mortal sins.
If our partner is in a bad mood, it means we made a mistake, not them. We engage in constant self-digging, scolding ourselves.
In the end, we come to a disappointing conclusion: our other half reacts negatively to our behavior, since our character and manners leave much to be desired.
We work on ourselves, improve ourselves, but our partner’s attitude towards us does not change.
We try to solve the problem again, despite our innocence. And again we get the same disappointing result.
It turns out that the reason is not in us, but in the toxic partner.
"Everything will be fine soon"
We believe that we can be happy with this person. For the sake of great love, we are ready to wait as long as it takes.
"When we get a car, many of our problems will disappear without a trace" - we continue to repeat. And then the long-awaited purchase is made, but the scandals and aggression do not go away.
The same goes for career advancement and buying a house. No matter what we do, our loved one behaves in an outrageous and unacceptable manner.
"My chosen one will not survive this breakup"
All sympathetic and caring natures come up with such an excuse. We do not dare to break off relations with our other half, because we are worried about their future fate.
Without us, our loved one will suffer and give up. His life will suddenly become difficult and unbearable.
The truth is that a toxic partner will not worry and will quickly rush to find a new victim from whom he can “drink blood”. And he will definitely find it and get satisfaction.
It turns out that all our worries are in vain. It's time to live for yourself!
Earlier we wrote about how to save your relationship with your partner.
