Unhappy with your marriage: who is to blame and what to do
It is sad to see how some people do not take responsibility for their lives. They do not want to blame themselves for some of their misfortunes and troubles.
Instead of admitting their mistakes and trying not to repeat them, they blame “villain fate” or their parents for their failures.
It doesn't matter who or what is on the "guilty" list, as long as the blame lies with someone else. People of this type can even make a list of the misfortunes that haunt them.
Why then do some who complain about life still think that it is simply the result of their actions and wrong words?
Let's imagine a typical everyday scene, when an unhappy woman is dissatisfied with her drinking husband.
Her family life resembles eternal chaos, anger, resentment and hostility simply pour out of her.
Her friends ask: "Why live with a man if he is so bad?" And she answers: "There was no better one anyway, so I chose him, and now I have to endure it."
However, life cannot be built according to the scheme “I have to tolerate him.”
If we make any decision, we must realize that all responsibility lies with us alone.
A woman who puts up with her husband all her life, as a rule, does not realize the full complexity of her situation and does not even admit her guilt.
However, she has no one to blame but herself. A certain ill will is mixed in with everything here, or, to put it simply, envy of other successful women.
Quite often, you can hear insults directed at a successful business lady. Often, such women are called selfish, and also accused of not loving anyone in the world, only themselves.
Who prevented you from loving yourself at the time? In such situations, you always want to ask the question: why did you stop loving yourself, start arguing with your husband until you foam at the mouth and trying to change him, because then you can’t change anything. Did he marry you just to terrorize himself and you? You chose him yourself, and no one imposed him on you.
Stop blaming everything on "chance" and "fate". After all, it was your decision and your desire. Who are you blaming now? Don't do that, be calm and confident.
Earlier we talked about how to get along with a stubborn husband .
