Everyone who is going to start a family dreams that they will walk hand in hand along the path of life with a person who has a minimum of negative qualities. Or with an ideal person.
Although it is almost impossible to find the latter, because ideal people do not exist in nature. Each of us has one or another flaw, and there is no need to even talk about character!
Men who dream of having a spouse who is sweet, friendly, agreeable with everything, and at the same time, economical, good-natured, etc., are especially careful when choosing a wife.
The fallacy of this method of selection has long been proven not only by men themselves, but also by women.
Quite often in periodicals and on the Internet you can see articles that say that when choosing a life partner, the most important thing is the presence of advantages, not the absence of disadvantages. And this axiom is relevant even if the future wife has a difficult character.
Marrying a girl with a difficult character is a huge step towards self-improvement and growth, both career and personal.
Today's men, namely the majority of them, prefer to see a wife by their side who will not demand much, will go with the flow with her husband and provide herself and her husband with a comfortable existence. But in nature there is another type of girls - girls - fighters, striving to get what they do not have. And in order to get it, they set certain tasks for themselves, which they themselves solve.
They make the most stringent demands on themselves. And not only on themselves. They try to take more from life, preferring that the man who is next to them also strives for something more, better.
They plan for both, arguing, convincing, arguing, and persuading. At the same time, they do it emotionally, passionately, caring about their other half.
From the outside it may seem that this type of girls is indifferent. But this is far from true. Having a complex character, they always put family values and personal relationships first.
And if it is necessary to preserve harmony and peace, all means are used, while they trample on their own feelings, dreams and desires.
If a man in his single life is not used to being a leader, then he will choose a wife to match him. Passive, unwilling to work on herself, not contradictory, worshiping only him. But in the end, such a marriage, which was planned as problem-free, withers.
What remains is a habit or a duty. A duty to live for the sake of children, for the sake of a joint business or a loan taken for an apartment.
For a real man who strives for growth, a girl with a complex character is a win-win option. After all, the complexity of the character lies only in the fact that the girl strives for the best, and therefore, she will encourage her marriage partner to do the same. If the communication between them is healthy, the relationship will only get stronger with each passing year.
Marrying a simpleton will not be as inspiring as marrying a girl with a difficult character. Prettiness will become boring, and if a man strives for something, then everyday life will be filled with a feeling that something is missing, something was missed.
Girls with a difficult character are also called differently. Very often, one can hear "bitch" or "crazy" addressed to one or another female person.
In fact, such ladies are simply very inventive, they approach everything they do creatively. Even in bed they are good at inventions.
That is why they will love their spouse with all the passion they are capable of.
Such ladies will help anyone to realize their dream, you can argue with them, discuss any issue, any book, film, etc. In disputes, they can come up with arguments that will call into question the value system that almost every man has. But it won't be boring. There are plenty of simpletons.
But as they say, the simpler a person is, the simpler his mind is. And every man has to choose for himself - to go with the flow or fight the storm waves. But if the above arguments have convinced you to choose a girl with a complex character as a companion, the question immediately arises. How do you know that you have exactly this kind of girl next to you?
It is quite easy to understand. Such a girl will rarely say what a man wants to hear. And if she voices her point of view, you should be prepared that in most cases she will be right.
Respect is what such a girl will demand from her man.
When talking about politics, she will have her own point of view.
She will discuss a wide variety of issues with passion in her eyes.
Such a girl will never allow her companion to bury his talent in the ground.
Will stimulate his partner to self-improvement. And will do it daily.
A man will often resist her.
Her talents and abilities are developed on the same level as those of her companion, and may even surpass them to some extent.
Only a smart enough man will be able to recognize the intelligence and experience of his companion as a virtue, and try not to let her go. It is such couples that are doomed to live happily ever after in the future.
We previously talked about the signs of a failing marriage
Author: Valeria Kisternaya
Expert: Arkhipova Julia
