Making People Feel Guilty: 10 Things Manipulators Say

Manipulators are masters of deception, so it can sometimes be difficult to notice what they are doing.

Such people say a lot of things, but rarely have useful conversations with a person.

They say they are superior, victimized, and neglected all at the same time. When a manipulator wants something, they will stop at nothing to get it.

Let's look at the things manipulators will say to make a person feel guilty.

He never said that.

Manipulators use expert control techniques, one of which is gaslighting. This behavior is a little difficult to explain, as it takes many forms.

Basically, manipulators use gaslighting to make a person rethink something they said or did. When a manipulator says something like “I didn’t say that,” it probably did. If the statement goes against their beliefs, they will deny it.

It wasn't his idea.

People who are easily manipulated will never take responsibility for a bad idea or failure because they want to manipulate anything or anyone in order to always win.
If they come up with a plan to do something and it turns out to be terrible, they won't take responsibility for that idea.

The other one is lying

Everyone lies sometimes, but most people want to be honest. A person strives to be as sincere as possible, and even feels guilty when this is impossible. The manipulator knows this too.

Such people know that the other person will start to defend himself if he is called a liar, and in this case the person is vulnerable.

From this point on, the manipulator can force the person to do anything, out of guilt.

The other person is too sensitive

What manipulators say not only makes a person feel guilty, but also really hurts. They choose what feelings to show and what not to show, sometimes calling it drama, but there is a difference between a real dramatic scene and showing sensitivity.

The manipulator knows this, but uses such statements to, again, put the person in a vulnerable position due to feelings of guilt.

The man himself is to blame

People who often use manipulation will cause physical and mental pain and then turn around and say the other person provoked them.

Although there is cause and effect, ultimately everyone is responsible for their own actions. Don't be fooled by what the manipulator says.

Speaks of another's desire to hurt him

When a toxic person wants something and another says no, they will pretend that the rejection hurts them. And rejections can sometimes hurt because most people usually want a positive answer. In this case, the manipulator evokes guilt by playing the victim.

Insincere apologies

People who are manipulative expect the other person to simply accept the apology without making any effort to correct their mistakes.

When the other person begins to understand why the manipulator did something offensive, that's when he uses the "I already apologized" excuse.

Accuses the person of making a scene

This is another phrase that manipulators say to make someone feel guilty. They may provoke a fight in public and make the other person so angry in front of others that they start yelling at them.

When someone manipulates a person to the point where they lose their temper, they tend to lose their temper. There is a difference between verbal abuse and reaching a breaking point.

If the other person really loved him, he would do it

Just because a person cares about someone doesn't mean they should do everything they are asked to do. Sometimes it's better to say "no" without any explanation because it doesn't mean the person doesn't love the other person.

He was misunderstood

Manipulators will always say that they have been misunderstood. In this case, it is worth reminding them of what they said and not allowing them to avoid answering.

Earlier we reported on how to live with a silent husband .