Most modern married couples sleep in the same bed - sleeping together is considered a symbol of a successful, strong marriage. But recently, sleeping separately has become fashionable.
As historical experience shows, in different countries at different times there was an ambiguous attitude towards this issue.
For example, several centuries ago in aristocratic circles in Europe it was customary for husband and wife to have separate bedrooms. Let's try to figure out how it is better for spouses to sleep - together or separately.
Co-sleeping - pros and cons
According to psychologists, the main advantage of a shared bedroom is that spouses become closer to each other.
The opportunity to fall asleep next to your partner gives a unique feeling of complete unity with him. In addition, being in the same bed, the husband and wife have the opportunity to talk about important matters before going to bed or discuss interesting news.
The fast pace of modern life often leads to spouses having a lack of communication with each other. And if they sleep in different rooms, there is a risk of stopping communicating altogether.
As for the downsides, they are unfortunately also present. The main disadvantage of co-sleeping is, of course, snoring. The inability to fall asleep because your beloved spouse is snoring loudly nearby has brought some couples to the brink of divorce.
The second reason why people become opposed to shared bedrooms is directly related to aesthetics.
Many women feel inferior because their husbands see them without makeup and with tangled hair.
Thirdly, the French writer Maupassant noted that sleeping together is an exchange of unpleasant smells.
Sleeping Separately - Pros and Cons
Having separate bedrooms means you don't have to worry about kicking each other in your sleep or waking each other up with loud snoring.
A woman may not feel self-conscious about the fact that her beloved husband will see her unattractive and sleepy.
Many couples who sleep separately claim that this is what helped them maintain their mutual passion after many years of marriage. And such sleep is not an obstacle to good intimacy. A wife who has a separate bedroom can take a leisurely shower in the morning, comb her hair, put on makeup - and come to her husband's room.
The disadvantages of sleeping in different rooms include the inability to fall asleep and wake up in the arms of a loved one.
If there is a chill in the relationship between spouses, then, according to some psychologists, the presence of separate bedrooms can worsen the situation. In addition to the above reasons, stereotypes play a big role.
In our society, it is generally accepted that if a husband and wife do not sleep together, then they have serious problems in their relationship. Therefore, even those spouses who would be happy to sleep separately, share one bed out of fear of what relatives and friends will think.
To sum up the above, it is impossible to give a clear answer as to whether sleeping together or sleeping separately is more preferable for marital relations.
Psychologists believe that this issue should be approached individually, based on personal needs, preferences and capabilities.
For example, a small living space does not encourage sleeping in different rooms.
Living in a two-room apartment with a spouse and two children, it is impossible to allocate a separate bedroom for yourself, even if you want to sleep separately.
One thing is certain: in marriage, everything that suits both partners is good.
The main thing is that you and your significant other agree on something or come to a reasonable compromise.
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Author: Sergey Bogdan
